Why You Keep Falling in Love With Potential Instead of Reality
Have you ever met someone and instantly sensed who they could become? You see the future for them and all they can accomplish. You end up dating the person because of that potential and ignore what is right in front of you. It feels exciting, magnetic, almost undeniable.
So what’s happening? You think you’ve met someone special, “the one,” because you feel instant connection, chemistry, and deep soul recognition and resonance. It feels strong and potent. You believe you are seeing their future, and you want to not only invest in that future but also help them bring it into being.
But that’s not what’s actually happening.
What’s actually happening is that you are seeing your own potential reflected back to you. The person you are projecting onto becomes the screen through which you can see your own potential. You just haven’t understood or claimed it yet. This is where the confusion begins. You’re not seeing them clearly. You’re seeing yourself.”
What’s confusing is that it feels like love because there is real soul resonance between you and the person: natural and fated, like a long-awaited soul remembrance. When in fact, it is a form of soul activation or initiation. We all have the potential to activate other souls and be activated by them too. Often, we have signed soul contracts before incarnation to that effect. And when we meet, the activation is set in motion if we understand what it is. But activation and compatibility are not the same.
The real issue is that you stay for who they could become because you see it so clearly. In fact, it can become your mission. You guide and hold space patiently and are oblivious to what is in front of you: the mismatch and the misunderstanding that they were never meant to be a partner, just an activator. And this is where the cost comes in.
The cost is heavy: you waste your time and your energy chasing something that isn’t meant to be. You lose track of your own path and delay your own expansion, waiting because that soul resonance was love, right? At some point, something has to shift. And the longer you stay, the more you override yourself.
So what if falling in love with this potential was not about the person at all, but about an initiation into your potential? What if the relationship was never meant to last beyond that initiation and acted as a trampoline into your power? Would this change how you perceive these types of relationships?
When you understand that certain people are only here to act as initiators, you stop chasing potential and you start to claim what you see in them as yourself, which automatically changes how relationships manifest in your life.
For most people, it’s challenging to shift this pattern by thinking differently because it’s a structural pattern that is deeply rooted in how you were educated, raised, and who you have been for eons. This is why I created the TaA geE aAwaAh bond course: it helps people update their internal relational template.
If you’re done repeating this pattern, you can access the course here.
The next time you see someone’s potential shining brightly at you, do yourself a favor, instead of obsessing about the person, ask yourself: are you ready to be initiated into the next stage of your potential?