How to Unf#ck Yourself: A Guide For The Deeply Stuck

Dizziness for over three Years

 Not a cute metaphor.
I mean actual, constant spinning—24/7—as if I were on a boat and the whole world around me was swaying. At the same time, it affected everything and I felt stuck in every part of my life: mentally, physically, energetically.

I hit rock bottom more times than I can count.
Hope to despair and back again was a near-daily cycle.
I tried everything—from hard science to woo. Some things helped. Others didn’t. But what finally moved the needle was this:

Stuckness = stuck energy.
You don’t need to name it. You don’t need a full backstory. You just need to get it moving.

Here’s what worked for me. Not in perfect order.

Just puzzle pieces that slowly helped me find my way back.

1. Locate the stuckness in your body.

Mine was in my head. I spent time with it daily. Sat with it. Let it shift. No fixing. Just presence.
Eventually, I realized it was a very young part of me—frozen in time and needing to be witnessed.

2. Get the medical stuff out of the way.

Do the tests. See the specialists. Rule out what you can.
Don’t let fear hijack your healing.

3. Follow the flow.

Where is energy actually moving in your life?
Go there. Sometimes the way out of the block is through a completely different doorway.

4. Pay attention to what enters your field.

Spirit speaks in passing conversations, random meetings, song lyrics, random nudges.
I listened. If something showed up three times, I followed it. That was my way of saying: I’m listening.

5. Do scary things.

Especially the ones you’ve been avoiding.
Leave the routine. Travel. Say yes when your system wants to shut down. Shake up the known.

6. Be patient.

Some stuckness is ancient. It needs your love, not your urgency.
You may cycle through it again and again. Let it be a spiral, not a failure.

7. Move your body.

Stuck energy needs motion.
Dance. Walk. Shake. Breathe.
Move like your life depends on it—because sometimes, your sanity does.

8. Get the right support.

For me, it was acupuncture, trauma therapy, Quantum Touch, and upper cervical chiropractic care.
Find people who get your system.

9. Treat it like an initiation.

Something old is dying. Something new is asking to come in.
This isn’t a breakdown. It’s the dark before dawn.
It’s the beginning.

10. Make space.

Physically and energetically.
Declutter your home, your inbox, your identity.
Let go of what no longer matches your becoming. Make room for the new you to land.

11. Act on the one-track-mind ideas.

Mine was: Create an Oracle Deck. I resisted for months. Then finally said yes. That “yes” cracked something big open.

Final Thought

The thing you’re most afraid of might be the exact thing that sets you free.

“Everything you want is on the other side of fear.”
—George Addair

If you’re deep in the stuck right now, I wrote this for you.
You’re not broken. You’re becoming.
Let it happen.

Leave a comment or send me a message—what’s the stuckness you’re working through right now?

A Postscript on Dizziness

The dizziness is still here. But we’ve made peace.
It’s become something like a guide— a very annoying but wise one.
I know its patterns, its timetables. And I’ve gathered the tools to live alongside it. I stay open. I keep listening. I still try new things.

This strange, uninvited companion forced me to pause.
To stop caretaking everyone else and put myself at the center of my life.
It made me leave a job that drained me.
It pushed me to examine every relationship and release the ones that weren’t aligned.

It taught me something radical:
What matters is not whether something is productive—but whether it energizes me.
Whether it wakes up my curiosity.

I still carry a quiet fear that the dizziness will never go away.
That I’ll fall back into the despair I once lived with.
Maybe that’ll happen. Maybe the dizziness will stay till the end.

Can I make it work? Probably.
Will I have bad days? Definitely.
But I’m no longer trying to outrun it.
I’m walking with it.